Author: Gary Black

Making Men: “What every father wants his son to know” Part 3

Taken from parts of a few different Chapters in “Making Men”: …On a side note on the cyclical nature of fatherlessness and divorce, I want to speak briefly to the way our children have unlimited access to information beyond our knowledge. With access to endless data on mobile phones and unregulated internet access, our young boys begin looking at porn in elementary school or even before. I have heard parents dismiss this as “normal behavior” and “part of puberty” that their sons will outgrow, but the data seems to be pointing the opposite direction. The divorce rate continues to climb. Pornography may not be the singular culprit, but if a young man starts looking at naked women before he even meets his wife, he has filled his mind with visuals far outside the scope of his future wife. He has grown accustomed to something outside monogamy—something at his disposal that answers to each of his whimsical desires and his momentary preferences. The divorce rate continues to grow partly because most of our boys are already used to cheating on a girlfriend or wife far before they begin dating. Porn is stealing the purity and sanctity of what true covenant is. A few of the differences between what boys do and what transformed men do… we have over 40 so far; These differences are of course what little boys do;...

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Making Men: “What every father wants his son to know”

As you may know I have written a book. It is currently being edited and re-edited, moved around, paragraphs deleted… as I need lot’s of help! My working title has changed from “Everything your dad should have taught you, but didn’t” to the above; if you have a better title, let me know Here is some of Chapter 1: The Making of a Man. When a father gives to his son, both laugh; when a son gives to his father, both cry. — William Shakespeare I was blessed to have a dad who taught me how to be a...

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“Everything your dad should have taught you, but didn’t” Intro

Hey guys, please give me your feedback here; I have around seven chapters written with what I believe could be an intense, fun and informative book… maybe just some blogs we shall see 🙂 “Everything your dad should have taught you, but didn’t” Introduction: As a dad of six children— four boys and two girls— I have learned much over the past 27 years about being a dad… mostly by failing. The parenting my wife Lisa and I did, coupled with my mistakes, have made for both a joyful and painful journey. The first silver lining from these 27 years has been to learn several times over not to trust anyone that is afraid of failing—or has not failed multiple times in his or her own life. While I am using this book to speak directly to boys and their journeys, I do not want in any way to discredit or devalue girls. Young ladies: I want you to know that I see you and know that you are the cornerstone of every society. Women work hard, have much less opportunity, and continue to show up and press in, even when life continues to deal an unfavorable hand. However, for the remainder of this narrative, I will spend the pages addressing the boys of our society. We have a crisis on our hands, and it starts with initiating our...

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It’s a thing…

This last week I had the opportunity to journey with seven other “middle-aged men.” We walked a section of the “The Way of St. James,” or the Camino de Santiago. A former attorney now pastor from Indianapolis, a retired Executive Tech professional from Massachusetts, a double MBA and ministry guru from Georgia, a Sales professional from Chicago, a retired SWAT policeman from Florida, an investment advisor from Atlanta, an ex-marine missionary to missionaries from Greece, and me. Forty-five to 65-year-old men from all areas and stages of life… The Way, (if you haven’t seen the movie, I highly recommend...

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