Author: Lisa Black

The Scent of a Woman

Smells can have a powerful affect on our emotions, one whiff of a scent from our past and we are flooded with memories. For me it the smell of lilies. For most people lilies have a pleasant aroma, but one trace of that smell and I am instantly transported to my living room in Michigan when it was filled with flower arrangements from my husbands funeral. There I stood in my black dress and high heels, surrounded by a jungle of plants and trays of food. My family had just left, and it was starting to set in that...

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A life well lived

We have all been there. We have all found ourselves at a funeral of someone that was less than amazing.  Years ago, I went to support a co-worker by attending the funeral of her ex-husband and what followed were two of the more uncomfortable hours of my life. The gentleman being remembered had abandoned his wife, his four children, and his friends and replaced all the gifts in his life for drugs, and alcohol. The influence of all those substances left the man angry, violent and dishonest.  Still, his family gathered to say goodbye. When the moment in the...

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Like a cruel wave

In anticipation for the release of my book following my grief journey through the loss of a husband and then my son. A second book ‘Shaken, not Stirred,’ on my advice for blended families with a focus on Step-mothers. A third book is almost ready to be released, about the difference in being a little girl to stepping into true womanhood (Princesses wait to be rescued, Queens save themselves!) I will be sharing my stories the only way I know how, raw and vulnerable.   Blogs posted every Thursday!  This morning I feel incredibly raw. It’s 9am, but I have...

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Mean Girls

I guess there are many things that are signals that a “girl” has become a “woman”. Things like getting taller, breast development, and the start of menstruation. Some of us start being sexual, some of us become mothers. We think we are no longer little girls, we think all of this means we have become a woman. Personally, I do not use any of the indicators above to determine womanhood, not in myself, not in my daughters and not in the women that I mentor or teach…and certainly not in the women I meet and decide to make my personal friends. I use one determining...

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Tomorrow I turn 46…

  I am not ashamed of my age, but honestly, I don’t love what is happening to my face nor do I enjoy the daily battle with my suddenly white and wavy hair. I  just don’t know how to grow older without aging. I like the wisdom that comes with being on the earth for a while, I like having adult children, and I like being married for a long time. Nothing about my 46 years has gone like I thought it would, nothing has really gone as planned.  I never thought I would raise 6 children, since I...

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