Author: Lisa Black

Bondage is not love; 50 shades of disturbing.

In this world of all gray, in this world of no standards and no absolutes I find myself on fire all the time. The questions burning inside me; “Who is going to lead this next generation? Where are the women that supposed to be strong mothers, where are the men that are supposed to be strong fathers?” There is a movement in this country that is trying to tell young women and older woman that bondage is love. It is not love. Bondage is slavery. If it were men pushing this agenda we would be outraged. But it’s not the...

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Five practical ways to take some of the dysfunction out of the holidays

  Be Realistic! Let’s just be honest; sure holidays are for family, food and friends, but unless you have perfect relationships, perfect children and a flawless marriage…conflict and old issues will likely rise to the surface.  For some people the holidays are the best time of the year, God bless ‘em.  There are people with a ton of money (or at least really good credit) that can create the illusion of amazing Holidays.  For some of us (most of us) the holidays can be a brutal reminder of what we don’t have, what we have lost, a marriage or...

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The Kitchen-Table and much more…

My kitchen table is not just old; it’s pretty beat up. But it tells a story, our story. There are deep marks from a screwdriver where I struggled to assemble toys for my daughters my first Christmas Eve as a single mom. There is Michael’s 3rd grade history paper engraved in the middle, he clearly was pressing on his pencil a bit too hard. There are a million memories of loud dinners with the whole wild family, watching my boys with BBQ sauce on their faces, and my girls rolling their eyes because they could never get a word in...

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You Can’t escape your “why”…

You can’t escape your “Why”… (A Blog by Gary and Lisa Black, last one on these sites) We have tried to run; we have tried to hide… We have curled into fetal positions, and we have shaken our fists at God.  We have fought for our family, we have clung to our marriage, and we have fought for our faith.  Through it all we have never stopped fighting for the next generation. Before we became “Gary and Lisa Black” we were called to reach the broken and hurting, and the day we committed our lives to each other, everything we knew separately suddenly made sense.  We took the pain...

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Celebrating MRB!

Son, Tomorrow is your birthday; you would have been 20 years old.  November 13th will always represent the day you were born, but now it also represents a deep and painful loss.  Last week I began to feel the quaking of new grief settle in our home, and could see the dark clouds filling the sky and threatening a storm of emotional turmoil. Everyone was home, and we were sitting down to dinner. I dared to utter the words that hung in the atmosphere above us. “Michaels birthday is next Wednesday, what do you all want to do?”  Everyone sucked...

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